The Spanish Association of Pediatrics (AEP) and the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommend that infants under six months share a room with their parents, but not the bed, to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome. This practice is generally safe in early childhood, except in cases like smoking parents.
Under the umbrella of respectful or natural parenting, it is increasingly common to see children aged 4, 5, 6, or 7, and even 8, 9, or 10, sharing their parents' bed. The issue arises when this practice is prolonged, raising questions about the appropriate age limit.
“"Generally speaking, I would say a clear sign that there is a problem is if the child finishes primary education [11 or 12 years old] and still has to sleep with the parents."
Psychologist Elisa López offers a reassuring message, stating that co-sleeping is not a problem if the parents agree. However, the alarm should sound when the child is incapable of sleeping away from home, whether at relatives' houses or during a school trip.
“"If your child sleeps with you, but then goes to camp without difficulties or sleeps at their grandparents' or aunts' and uncles' house, there is no problem."
Neuropsychologist Álvaro Bilbao warns that excessive positive parenting can lead to cases where children aged 12 or 13, or even 16, are unable to sleep without their mother, suggesting a possible anxiety disorder that prevents them from facing situations alone.
